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I would look at why you feel you need to shout and swear to let off steam.
Most times, people who yell aren't actually yelling for any good reason, they are yelling because there was a previous build up of situations they have been holding in and suddenly it all came bursting out.
Maybe you need to look at why you get angry this way and work on bottling things up less and letting them go more naturally, rather than blowing up.
I disagree that your girlfriend should just deal with it. It's not something she can get away from and she has to endure it, and it can't be pleasant. Relationships are about letting people be themselves, but compromise is also important. If you think about it, do you define yourself as "someone who shouts and swears"? Because if that's not just a part of your personality, then it's clearly something you can work on. Especially if it's causing people around you distress.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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