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rockzilla · 06-07-2003, 02:11 PM

You should figure out how high to place your expectations of people. Case in point : my two best friends are quite the flakes. I've known friend A for about 20 years (all three of us are about 25) Since graduating high school about 6 years ago, friend A has dropped out of graphic design at college because it was too hard (from what I hear it is pretty demanding, but I digress) been unemployed for about 4 1/2 of the past 6 years, has turned down jobs that don't pay well enough, or he just didn't like, and yet doesn't seem to want to go back to school. Needless to say he rarely has money, and when he does he spends it all on electronic gadgets for himself.
I've known friend B for about 10 years, and since high school, has almost completed an English major at university and has taken a few screen writing courses at community college with the goal of writing for tv comedies or cartoons. He always has numerous projects runing at once that never seem to get off the ground. He sings in a small time local band, but also has trouble keeping a steady job and rarely has money, he however, insists on contributing as much as he can when possible.

As for me, I'm not exactly Mr. Moneybags (especially now that I'm on short term disability) but I know that when we all get together, I'll probably be the only one with cigarettes or money (all three of us smoke, friend B buys cigarettes when he can, friend A, never)

Anyways, long story short, at least friend B tries, and I'm always more willing to pay friend B's way at the bar or what have you, knowing that he'd do the same for me. Friend A however has pretty much tried the limit of my patience and generosity and I'm beginning to tell him in less and less subtle ways to clean his act up or else. So what I'm trying to say is, some people are leeches and just don't try to improve themselves, and some just aren't that reliable no matter how hard they try. Figure out which one your friend is, and decide how much you're willing to give in the friendship and how much you want back in exchange.

06-07-2003, 02:11 PM	#16 (permalink)
rockzilla Junkie Location: The Kitchen	You should figure out how high to place your expectations of people. Case in point : my two best friends are quite the flakes. I've known friend A for about 20 years (all three of us are about 25) Since graduating high school about 6 years ago, friend A has dropped out of graphic design at college because it was too hard (from what I hear it is pretty demanding, but I digress) been unemployed for about 4 1/2 of the past 6 years, has turned down jobs that don't pay well enough, or he just didn't like, and yet doesn't seem to want to go back to school. Needless to say he rarely has money, and when he does he spends it all on electronic gadgets for himself. I've known friend B for about 10 years, and since high school, has almost completed an English major at university and has taken a few screen writing courses at community college with the goal of writing for tv comedies or cartoons. He always has numerous projects runing at once that never seem to get off the ground. He sings in a small time local band, but also has trouble keeping a steady job and rarely has money, he however, insists on contributing as much as he can when possible. As for me, I'm not exactly Mr. Moneybags (especially now that I'm on short term disability) but I know that when we all get together, I'll probably be the only one with cigarettes or money (all three of us smoke, friend B buys cigarettes when he can, friend A, never) Anyways, long story short, at least friend B tries, and I'm always more willing to pay friend B's way at the bar or what have you, knowing that he'd do the same for me. Friend A however has pretty much tried the limit of my patience and generosity and I'm beginning to tell him in less and less subtle ways to clean his act up or else. So what I'm trying to say is, some people are leeches and just don't try to improve themselves, and some just aren't that reliable no matter how hard they try. Figure out which one your friend is, and decide how much you're willing to give in the friendship and how much you want back in exchange.