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Originally Posted by Spartanx9
He's the one that is getting asked by my sister to support her. While he does get some of the basic needs, like cash for food and stuff for the week, he isn't going to support her full time if she isn't in the house. My sister doesn't like living with my dad, so she's not going to do it and still expects either him or my mom to help support her.
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To me, this is the problem. Your dad is supporting her (even if it's just basic needs, and isn't as much as your sister thinks she needs). She's getting some money, and feels entitled to more. She probably thinks that what your Dad would owe in Child Support (if he pays Child Support) should go to her since she isn't living with her mom.
This is where I'll speak about legal matters. If your Dad pays Child Support, even if she's runaway from home, he would still be obligated to pay child support to your mother until he files a motion to deal with this. The courts would then expect some resolution be offered (if mom is allowing daughter to runaway without any retaliation then Dad could opt for custody, if dad got it, he could then receive child support from mother, and force his daughter to move back in with him (call the police). If your family is too lazy to do anything about it, and your dad is willing to subsidize her (even if it's only money for food) then she's going to continue to feel entitled. It will take REALLY learning to survive on her own without help for her to respect what living on your own really means. She may hold it against your parents, and be angry at them, but right now, your dad is inadvertantly supporting her actions, and your mom is justifying them.
Its tough to see family make stupid decisions. Sometimes, all you can do is be there for them. Stay in touch, listen to them, give advice if they're willing to listen (if they're not willing to listen don't give advice). Show them you love them, but don't find yourself being their financial support if you don't want this behaviour to continue. Good luck.