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cj2112 · 09-06-2008, 06:45 AM

First let me give you some background...I moved out the first time when I was 15. I thought knew better than my parents. I came back home for a few weeks, and by the time I was 16 I was on my own completely. My mom told me I was always welcome to come to her home for a meal, but that she would not support me financially. My Dad and I were not on speaking terms at the time ( I was immature and not speaking to him, he had no real issue w/ me). I think I took her up on the meal one time. One of the best things my parents ever did for me was make me responsible for my choices. I now have a 14 y.o. daughter(she turns 15 this month) and a 12 y.o. son. So I've been down this road, and given this some thought.

She chose to move out, she can figure out how to survive. If your parents have half of a brain, they'll have her emancipated. I'm guessing that your sister is doing a fair amount of partying, and probably some other pretty dumb stuff that may have serious financial repercussions for your parents. She thinks she is adult enough to move out, she can act adult enough to figure out how to survive.

It sounds like your family certainly has it's fair share of problems, but what family doesn't? Your sister is going through a very difficult time in her life, if you two are at all close, NOW is the time she needs you most. If she is anything like I was at that age, she'll never tell you how scared she is, how hurt she is, how much she needs to know that somebody in her family actually gives a rats ass about her, but she NEEDS to know somebody has her back. That she can call you when she is freaking the hell out @ 3:00 in the morning and you'll answer. She also needs to know that you will tell her she's a mess when she's a mess. She needs you to be her big brother. If you don't, somebody else will, and that person will not be good for her.

09-06-2008, 06:45 AM	#11 (permalink)
cj2112 Unbelievable Location: Grants Pass OR	First let me give you some background...I moved out the first time when I was 15. I thought knew better than my parents. I came back home for a few weeks, and by the time I was 16 I was on my own completely. My mom told me I was always welcome to come to her home for a meal, but that she would not support me financially. My Dad and I were not on speaking terms at the time ( I was immature and not speaking to him, he had no real issue w/ me). I think I took her up on the meal one time. One of the best things my parents ever did for me was make me responsible for my choices. I now have a 14 y.o. daughter(she turns 15 this month) and a 12 y.o. son. So I've been down this road, and given this some thought. She chose to move out, she can figure out how to survive. If your parents have half of a brain, they'll have her emancipated. I'm guessing that your sister is doing a fair amount of partying, and probably some other pretty dumb stuff that may have serious financial repercussions for your parents. She thinks she is adult enough to move out, she can act adult enough to figure out how to survive. It sounds like your family certainly has it's fair share of problems, but what family doesn't? Your sister is going through a very difficult time in her life, if you two are at all close, NOW is the time she needs you most. If she is anything like I was at that age, she'll never tell you how scared she is, how hurt she is, how much she needs to know that somebody in her family actually gives a rats ass about her, but she NEEDS to know somebody has her back. That she can call you when she is freaking the hell out @ 3:00 in the morning and you'll answer. She also needs to know that you will tell her she's a mess when she's a mess. She needs you to be her big brother. If you don't, somebody else will, and that person will not be good for her.