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I've been thinking about this very subject since the other post manifested. It is the word and implication that make it something we shouldn't do. I think it's a matter of semantics.
We've all gone through (an assumption, yes) periods where it seemed every guy was an asshole. Then we meet someone who's nice and it starts going well. Until ... something about him irks you. It can be a personality trait, a habit, some strange nuance that just annoys you and maybe stresses you. It takes all you have to deal with it. At this point, you either dump him or settle? It's not that simple.
This is the time when we decide if we're settling, rejecting, or care enough to realize this is who he is and I love him because of or despite this idiosyncrasy.
Let's just say he stares down women in front of you, and you can't stand it. If you say to yourself, "Every time a cute chick walks by, spittle runs down his chin and it hurts me, but I'll deal with it", you're settling.
If you say, "This guy's unbelievably inconsiderate. It's over", you're rejecting.
If you say, "This guy's flawed, but in the scheme of things, it's something I can deal with 'cause it's actually kinda cute and I know he always comes home to me." I think that's accepting and loving, not settling.
Oh and for those who shop for men to fulfill a shopping list of their Perfect Man, I wish you luck.
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We are always more anxious to be distinguished for a talent which we do not possess, than to be praised for the fifteen which we do possess.
Mark Twain
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