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Originally Posted by abaya
I'm genuinely curious (genuinegirly, hehe) where/how you developed this definition of femininity... since my definition is quite different, and many of the things that you name, I expect no less of from the "masculine" side as well. But I was raised a tomboy--with a pretty bad example of "femininity" as what *not* to do--so that flavors my definition quite strongly.  |
I was also raised a tomboy. My mother didn't appear feminine. My father was my role model. As I matured, I began to see the behaviors I picked up from him, that I cherished, as feminine. He taught me to manicure my nails, to clean and repair the dirtiest, grimiest seemingly inutile household items. He taught me to hug, to love, to giggle. He taught me what it meant to be a good helper in a workshop and around the house. He taught me his feminine ideal - everything he knew that my mother could not teach me. As I began to see my father in a feminine light, I was able to see tidbits of my mother as feminine - in counterpoint to my father's few vestiges of masculinity.
I am female. By my definition, every trait that appeals to me as the epitome of an exalted female form is feminine.