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Martian · 09-03-2008, 09:04 PM

Well, George, sucks for you.

I don't mean to be a dick. I've been there. It hurts, and it sucks. But as of approximately 3:30 pm GMT on the 3rd day of September 2008, your relationship with this girl officially ended. That's it. It's done and there is no way at all that you can reverse that or change it.

The thing is, your post is all about you. It's about how this hurts you, how bitter you are, how bad you want to try. That's natural, and it's okay. You're looking out for your best interests. The part you haven't quite gotten around to yet is that this is exactly what she's doing too. It's what we all do, because it's what we all have to do. So yeah, I guess in a sense she's being selfish, but I don't know that I'd term it that. After all, if I give money to charity I'm generous, but if I give my grocery money to charity than I'm just fucking crazy. There's nobody on this Earth who will take care of you if you don't do it for yourself first.

My advice? Yeah, break off all contact with her. You have rightly intuited that being 'just friends' with this girl is going to be impossible, at least for the foreseeable future. There's too much emotion wrapped up in this to allow that to happen. So cut your losses, take your space and lick your wounds. It'll get better, but you have to give yourself the time and distance to do that.

Best course of action: Go to her on Friday, tell her that you love her and that you're grateful for the time you had together, but that you care about her too much to just be friends with her now. Walk out and don't look back. Move on with your life. Give yourself a few months at university and you'll hardly even know who you are anymore, so much will have changed. Focus on that, and on the positive things in your life.

09-03-2008, 09:04 PM	#7 (permalink)
Martian Young Crumudgeon Location: Canada	Well, George, sucks for you. I don't mean to be a dick. I've been there. It hurts, and it sucks. But as of approximately 3:30 pm GMT on the 3rd day of September 2008, your relationship with this girl officially ended. That's it. It's done and there is no way at all that you can reverse that or change it. The thing is, your post is all about you. It's about how this hurts you, how bitter you are, how bad you want to try. That's natural, and it's okay. You're looking out for your best interests. The part you haven't quite gotten around to yet is that this is exactly what she's doing too. It's what we all do, because it's what we all have to do. So yeah, I guess in a sense she's being selfish, but I don't know that I'd term it that. After all, if I give money to charity I'm generous, but if I give my grocery money to charity than I'm just fucking crazy. There's nobody on this Earth who will take care of you if you don't do it for yourself first. My advice? Yeah, break off all contact with her. You have rightly intuited that being 'just friends' with this girl is going to be impossible, at least for the foreseeable future. There's too much emotion wrapped up in this to allow that to happen. So cut your losses, take your space and lick your wounds. It'll get better, but you have to give yourself the time and distance to do that. Best course of action: Go to her on Friday, tell her that you love her and that you're grateful for the time you had together, but that you care about her too much to just be friends with her now. Walk out and don't look back. Move on with your life. Give yourself a few months at university and you'll hardly even know who you are anymore, so much will have changed. Focus on that, and on the positive things in your life. __________________ I wake up in the morning more tired than before I slept I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said - Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame