Sometimes I find it's beneficial to look at the dictionary in situations like these. These definitions are abridged from the Oxford English Dictionary; if you are familiar with the OED, you will know why I abridged them. And sorry, no linkage to full definitions, as one needs access through an academic institution.
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manner:
6. In pl.
a. A person's social behaviour or habits, judged according to the degree of politeness or the degree of conformity to accepted standards of behaviour or propriety.
b. spec. Polite or refined social behaviour or habits. {dag}Formerly also in sing.
Also as int. (short for mind your manners! at MIND v. 8d).
Marerez in quot. c1400 is read by most modern editors as a transmission error for manerez: see MARRER n.
c. for manners: in order to comply with socially acceptable rules of polite behaviour.
Freq. used with reference to the convention of leaving a small part of a dish or meal uneaten; cf. manners-bit n. at Compounds 1b. Also (occas.) with personification, as for Miss Manners, for Mr Manners.
d. Forms of behaviour exemplifying politeness or respect. Now only in to make (also do) one's manners (regional): to curtsy, bow; to perform conventional politenesses; to pay one's respects.
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And the definition of
polite that we are looking for, also from the OED:
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c. Courteous, behaving in a manner that is respectful or considerate of others; well-mannered.
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As I see it, you can't have one without the other.