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Originally Posted by soma
Yeah, so you want to get with this girl and haven't started flirting with her and just have long conversations with her? That just screams friend zone. If you want to get with her, you're going to have to turn things up a notch or two.  |
Other than being forward and asking her out (which would be an option), I am trying to figure out weather it is just an activity date with a friend or a romantic date with someone she likes. My plan is to add in some non-sport type things into the plan. Lets say we go bike riding on Saturday afternoon, I will see if she wants to join me to go to a nightclub downtown Saturday night.
I'm not really sure what level of flirting to use. I don't live in LA or NY, and I don't know what she finds better, a slow friends to relationship approach, or a more obvious and forward approach. When I get back home, I will have to test the waters. And as the saying goes: A girl knows within the first 5 minutes how far they will let you go. So it shouldn't really matter if she likes me things will go fine whatever I choose.
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The other part is that physically, she looks good and I wouldn't have any hangups because of that. But I don't know her past and I'm not looking for some one-time sex fling. I would have problems if she had lots of drunken random hookups and went wild on spring break or the weekends now. I don't think she would, but I don't know. And it's one of those tricky things to try and find out prior to actually asking her out and finding out who she really is.
Then again, I want her to be Miss Perfect, while giving me obvious signals that she likes me. She is so far with what I've heard from her. But, we haven't talked about any really personal stuff yet, and it's hard for me to bring up in a non-anonymous real life situation.