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When in serious doubt, there's always The Joy of Sex, The Sex Bible, Sex for Dummies, or similar type books. I read a number of these sorts of things as a young teenager, trying to improve my skills.
I'd stay away from the more ancient ones until you've gotten a little more experience in making it work together. I had a girl once where we tried to get through as many of the positions in the Kama Sutra as we could. Turns out it's quite a workout, and some knowledge of trigonometry can be helpful. I found that instead of moaning and groaning, your sex ends up sounding a lot more like "Okay, I think you put your leg here...now I grab you by the left boob, so could you turn sideways a little...okay, try to hold still a second...can you bend your knee a little, and lean forward a bit...wait, stop, my dick doesn't bend that way...!"
That said, communication really is key. If she won't tell you what she wants, and you can't figure it out, maybe try going to a sex therapist?
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Dull sublunary lovers love,
Whose soul is sense, cannot admit
Absence, because it doth remove
That thing which elemented it.
(From "A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning" by John Donne)
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