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After most of my college friends got married at age 22 (they were religious--no sex till then) and I had to be a bridesmaid 4 times in big church weddings, I started hating weddings, too... and I was also getting over an ex at the time, too. Luckily, I got a break for about 4 years--no one got married, I was single--and by the time the next wave of weddings happened (grad school pairings, including mine), I was in a much better place regarding the whole phenomenon.
Ktspktsp and I had a beautiful, touching, secular wedding, that was quite small and we kept ourselves on a limited budget. You don't have to have a "big church wedding" to satisfy that need for ritual when moving on to the next stage of your life. When you're with the right person, those kinds of details really don't matter so much, at least in my opinion.
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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
--Khalil Gibran
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