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Originally Posted by Acetylene
For you, I want to reiterate what's been mentioned: Benadryl is a great sleep aid, and exercise is an absolute MUST. Work as hard as you can for as long as you can, and then work another 10 minutes. It'll have the added advantage of helping you sleep.
For her, yes--it's a thrill seek. She doesn't feel like she's had enough of the dating game. She may have married too young. Some people don't ever get ready to be married.
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Yeah, exercise has been mentioned before as well and I agree, it's a much better and more constructive way to release energy. I will take up on that suggestion.
She was 23 when we got married. I was her first serious boyfriend, and her first/only sexual partner. She was battling weight issues in college and wasn't chased after by guys. She has told me that she had no attraction for the guy she was chatting with (I find this hard to believe but she keeps claiming it) but that she was attracted to being pursued by a guy who couldn't have her. She liked the chase, I guess. Maybe now that we've been married for five years my appreciation for her body and her sex appeal isn't enough for her. I could understand that; I have felt sometimes that I wish some cute cashier would flirt with me so that I could feel like I was still worth a second look. Just for an ego boost. If that's what it was, then I can understand it, even if it went beyond the realm of what's acceptable. I hope to uncover the root of the problem in counseling, but it's possible that she'll have to figure it out for herself, while I focus on making sure
I am ok.