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Originally Posted by MSD
Pickup Artists (or guys who read The Game and think they are one) get girls, not girlfriends.
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True. However you can't get a girlfriend if you can't get a girl. Getting a girlfriend is not a good goal. Being able to talk to anyone with confidence is a better one.
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Originally Posted by Mirth
But yes, confidence is my biggest weakness, but in a way it's not.
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No, it is. You don't need to share your life story immediately, but if you can't hold a simple conversation with a new woman, you are really going to limit the amount of women you can meet.
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Originally Posted by Mirth
I know of the option to take the cocky/dickhead route towards women, but, I'm not sure that's for me because I want a woman to want me for my niceness and caring personality, not a woman who wants me because I was a dickhead to her for a few minutes and then gets bored of me quickly afterwards. But then again, "nice guys finish last", right?
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The dickhead/cocky approach was developed because it is much easier for working up your confidence and getting used to rejection. The basic point of that approach is this: you do not need a woman to make you happy, you do not need a woman to make decisions for you. I am going to generalize about women now (something TFP hates). Women want to be lead. They do not want a man who supplicates to them. Being able to do this while still being respectful and kind is a balancing act that is hard for someone just coming out of his shell.