Jenna

The similar thing happened to myself and my boyfriend.

Basically, my best friend growing up had an older brother who wanted to jump my bones worse than anyone I know. But, when we were friends, I was underage. He is nearly 10 years older than me, and he decided to not go after his urge because I was still underage. But he never stopped telling me that when I turned 18, he was going to fuck my brains out. This sounds a bit creepy, but I've always been mature for my age. By the time I was 15 I had at least an E cup and I was hanging out with people in their 20's. I even had adopted the nickname "Jailbait" for awhile.

The girl and I grew apart, we stopped being friends and by the time I was 18 I had a boyfriend. The guy and I kind of stopped talking, but we remained friends on myspace and stuff.

Then I got into a serious relationship, the one which I'm in now. It's been nearly 4 years. I'll admit, I've had some issues rather recently about the whole thing... I love my boyfriend, and he's the man I want to be with. But I feel I want to get out and experience more, I mean, I'm still young! This has been an ongoing struggle within for some time now. But, I know my current boyfriend won't wait for me, he's older and he will move on with his life.

So, when I got a message on myspace from this guy last winter, I got those "butterflies" in my stomach again that I haven't had in awhile. And the funny thing is, my boyfriend is NEVER shy with compliments, but it was something new, and knowing that he wanted me after years made me feel good about myself.

So, we were exchanging messages, him telling me about how he wants to get together sometime, and that he never did screw me... about how good I look, blah blah. I was sending back messages, mine were very vague, but definitely suggestive. I was making sure to delete the messages in both my inbox and outbox. But, I missed one.

My boyfriend found it KIND OF by accident - my myspace hadn't logged me out before he wanted to log on, and he went snooping in my inbox and outbox... so he didn't hack into my account or anything - but there was some snooping going on. He was LIVID. He knew this guy and knew how bad he wanted me, and he saw that I was being rather suggestive back. And he's had problems in the past with one guy in particular who would keep texting me, and wouldn't stop, but I honestly wasn't saying anything back to him. He did the same as you, he said that I was not to talk to him and I was to block him. He also wrote him a message saying to back the fuck off. He also told me that he wanted my password to myspace and to facebook.

The thing he didn't know is that I was talking to him via AIM at work, which he had no way of finding out. The AIM was much more in depth, and to be honest, I was actually contemplating going to have a one night stand with him. But, I did as my boyfriend wished, because I do truly love him, and I don't want to hurt him. I blocked him from all my accounts and I stopped replying to his messages. Although he did text me and say he felt bad that my boyfriend had found out, and that he hopes everything works out.

So, what it boils down to, is that there was an underlying issue that made me do what I did. There has to be something that your wife isn't telling you. It could be the same reasons I had, but it could be something else. I'd suggest digging deeper. Because it sounds like she never gave you a good motive for her actions. I know that I told my boyfriend a little about the reason I did it. And he understood, but we're doing ok now. We've actually been slowly trying to figure out a way to overcome the issue, but it's a really touchy subject. The only thing I can think of is an open relationship, which I wouldn't be totally opposed to, but we'll see how it all plays out.

But, I quit. I quit because I didn't want to hurt my partner. Your wife has continued. But it sounds like you're on the right track. I can't say I can help you with the anger issues, as I would be just as upset as you are. But I can tell you that if you get things worked out, the trust will come back slowly.