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If this were a situation I had to deal with, and my partner were insecure about my habit of visiting strip clubs, I would listen to them respectfully and try to single out the specific concerns. Does she fear that I will end up screwing around with one of the strippers? Is she simply uncomfortable with the thought of a stripper giving me a lap dance?
I would ask her to come along with me on the next visit, and she can witness what happens there. Assuming it's nothing beyond what's typical at a strip club, I would expect her to loosen up a bit and hopefully realize that she doesn't have to worry. In fact, I might just make a point of letting her know whenever I'm going to the strip club, and always inviting her to join me. Additionally, I would be giving more attention to her than the strippers, in case she worries that she doesn't measure up to them in a physical/sexiness sense.
If she doesn't respond well to that, I would most likely attempt to eliminate my visits, but that's because visiting strip clubs isn't high on my priority list. If it were a priority, I would seek to limit the visits and rearrange my priorities. Obviously, strip clubs should ultimately be less important than the well being of your lover.
I think the main issue would be her worry that you don't want her to be there at the strip club with you (hey, I would find it hot, myself), and thus wondering why you don't want her there. "Hmm, what does he have to hide?"
Definitely insecurity on her part. The method of involving the partner in strip club visits would hopefully remove said insecurity over time, the main issue being that she fears there's something you're hiding, and/or she fears that she can't compare to the strippers and may think you want them more.
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