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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq
See, that's the crux of what you are talking about, you feel responsible for something and thus you feel YOU need to change it. It's not your responsibility how someone acts or responds to a situation. It is a losing bet always if you tie your own self to that.
A business axiom that was passed to me, "If your responsibility exceeds your authority you will always fail."
It applies here too. You don't have the authority to change how someone feels for your actions. You aren't responsible for their behavior.
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I think this needs a seconding here, especially given what you've discussed, abaya. Above all else, you are not responsible for how others view the situation. You are not responsible for your mother's inability to let you go despite the fact that you are in your late 20s. Your mother and your mother alone is responsible for that. Yes, she will get older, but she has a responsibility to herself to seek a social circle beyond you--and if she fails to do that, that's her own failing, not yours.
Generally, the normal behavior in trying to accept the unacceptable is just coping until a person reaches acceptance. If a person is unable to do that, it's not your responsibility to adjust your life situation so that they don't have to--in fact, quite frankly I think it's worse. Life is not a bed of roses, and things do not go the way we would like them to, period. We just have to do our best to muddle through it.