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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq
To what purpose? Saving face and not having to accept unacceptable things which would be pressed upon by outside family members. But so what... you get through it, time passes, and move on.
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Now, this is interesting--perhaps we can pull people back into the thread here. How many have *not* accepted unacceptable things, because of the pressure to "save face" in front of others, and appear as if everything is fine?
I hadn't thought of that in my own situation--I just assumed that most people do try and accept the shit that's going down in their lives, even if it takes time, as shakran said earlier.
But saving face is something else altogether--that attitude is certainly prominent in my own Asian family, though my mother has put a lot of effort into being able to communicate about these things instead of staying reserved (not that it's helped her to move on that much, but at least she can talk about it). I never thought about Icelandic society as having a "saving face" mentality, but it makes more sense, the more I think about it.