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I handle all the money issues. The spouse prefers ignorance about it, even though I share information with him. This ignorance caused us last November to be charged over $260 in NSF charges because he lives on his debit card, never writes in what he's spent unless I mention it to him to do so.
By the same token, if I save for something and then get it, he's adamant about whatever I bought-new computer, the camera-to call it "ours". They're not. They're mine.
If I have something coming up, I stash cash for it. Yet, if there's something coming up he wants to do and I tell him to stash cash for it, he responds that he shouldn't have to-the money we have is "mostly his" because he makes 3 times more than I do.
He's clueless and whatever I try to do doesn't sink in.
Do I "cheat" on him with the money? Sort of. When our electric was shut off, I was bailed out and this past week, when he had hit the ATM too many times and my money owed hadn't come in, I had to be bailed out again. These times I don't tell him about. The last time I asked him where all these ATM cashouts were going, he got defensive and started yelling, so fuck it. It's like cleaning up after a dog-he makes the mess, I come up from behind and clean it up. Of course, I am partially to blame as it's my money too, but I try to stay one step ahead and keep the bills current while trying to balance a checkbook filled with ATM this and debitcard purchase that.
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