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My ex and I always had separate accounts, both checking and savings. I didnt know how much money he had, and he didnt know my account balances, at least not until the divorce. The exception to this was a 401K.
I dont think there was any hiding of funds, just that we didnt talk about money until there was some big purchase, and sometimes not even then. I was surprised on more than one occasion. In hindsight, I think not knowing where one another stood, and making assumptions, led to a little stress that neither of us noticed or brought up. At the same time, looking back I can see that not talking about money may have added a freedom for us.
I have a sister who actively hides receipts and the amount of money something costs from her spouse. I have never understood that, thinking it would be detrimental to their marriage, but they are one of the happiest couples I know. Perhaps its that ignorance is bliss adage at work.
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