snowy

Yes, I avoid talking about spending and spending habits, and it is a bad habit instilled in me by my parents. My dad openly talks about money, but never about spending, and same with my mother. They never ever talk about spending with each other, and my mother has major issues in regards to hiding spending from my dad. I hate to say it, but the cycle continues, and I'm trying to break myself of it. I try to keep myself honest with my SO, but it's hard--it's like something is hardwired in me NOT to talk about it. Ugh. How does one overcome such a hurdle? I'm interested to see who else is in a similar boat.

Of course, we have no shared accounts, everything is separate. And I don't have the money to make big crazy purchases. But does he know precisely how much money I have? No. Does he care? Not likely. So on the other hand, I feel like we've yet to reach a point where not talking about spending really affects our finances or our relationship, simply because we do keep them separate.

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