ItWasMe

I was that girl, not too long ago. My husband was preparing to leave for 2 years, to go to war in Afghanistan (and from the things he saw, it was a war). I became emotionally and physically distant. Short tempered. I started fights over very small things.

He saw through this. During one of my tirades, he hugged me and wouldn't let me go. Then he asked me, "You're pushing me away, aren't you? I think it's because I'm leaving, and bad things can happen to me. Does all of this make it easier for you to deal with my leaving? Because it doesn't make it easier for me. It makes it a hellofa harder."

And I cried. Because he was right. And I stopped fighting and pushing him away. I tried to make our remaining time together special.

Granted, we have been married for well over a decade, and we are probably twenty years older than you are. It could be something similar. Or, it could be that everyone else is right. Feel free to borrow my hubby's tactic and even his line if you think it would help start the conversation. You may decide to make your remaining time special, then agree to see other people as well as each other, instead of exclusively. (In my case, married with 3 kids, it was not an option.) Find out what she's thinking.

Well, just thought this might help. Good luck.

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