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Originally posted by babaloo
Friends wife says that her husband (a.k.a. my friend) would never do counseling. She feels that their marriage is just going nowhere. She claims that there isn't anything left but is scared to get a divorce.
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Two comments....
1: Why do people seem to feel this need for relationships to be "going somewhere", and please explain in clear english exactly and concretely where a relationship that is "going somewhere" is going ? Can't a relationship reach a really nice "zone" and stay there for a while ? I mean if it is a lifetime partnership, where is it going to be going in another 30 years ? Can a man and a woman be comfortable together in a relationship that has reached it's perfection ?
"going somewhere" in my mind is phsyco-babble rap!
2: Young kids do not adapt easily. My son was 4 when we pulled up stakes and moved. (note: moving should be minor compared to a parent leaving) Now this move was to be nearer to extended family to increase the family comfort zone for my kids. They now get to see grandparents, uncles, aunts, and cousins regularly as a result. My son now 11 still to this day remembers and wishes to be living back in the old town. Simply moving was very hard on him.
these things said - choose well for all involved.