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Milkyway · 07-12-2008, 11:08 AM

Hey, hang in there. I have been with my man for what feels like forever and his family and I were always tight, even when we broke up for a few weeks they still loved me, but lately things have not been so great. I have gotten older and have kids and begun to see how selfish and arrogant his family is. As a grown woman with two small children I don't have time for BS and don't have any desire to put up with it. I also have a big mouth! So on more than one occasion I have had it out with various members of his family. It has hurt our relationship. Now I don't make extra effort to see his family, but I also go to things that I am invited to and have tried to mentally pretend I am meeting them for the first time and treat them as if all I know about them is today. That is the only thing that keeps me from wanting to grab them by the throats and scream WTF is your problem! It works, no we don't have the same relationship that we used to, but I know who they truly are now which is selfish shallow people and I really don't want a close relationship with people like that.

My issues are more with the way they treat my hubby than the way they treat me, but the fact remains, I was the one that screwed up our relationship and I am the one that has to look at them under a different light in order to be civil. I have to do that because it is the right thing to do, they were born selfish and they will die selfish, I can't change that, even if for a short time I didn't see it, and really admired them.

Again, most important, just mentally pretend this is the first time you met them, no past, just today, and work on that. It really does work and every one has a better time.

07-12-2008, 11:08 AM	#9 (permalink)
Milkyway Tilted Location: Ohio	Hey, hang in there. I have been with my man for what feels like forever and his family and I were always tight, even when we broke up for a few weeks they still loved me, but lately things have not been so great. I have gotten older and have kids and begun to see how selfish and arrogant his family is. As a grown woman with two small children I don't have time for BS and don't have any desire to put up with it. I also have a big mouth! So on more than one occasion I have had it out with various members of his family. It has hurt our relationship. Now I don't make extra effort to see his family, but I also go to things that I am invited to and have tried to mentally pretend I am meeting them for the first time and treat them as if all I know about them is today. That is the only thing that keeps me from wanting to grab them by the throats and scream WTF is your problem! It works, no we don't have the same relationship that we used to, but I know who they truly are now which is selfish shallow people and I really don't want a close relationship with people like that. My issues are more with the way they treat my hubby than the way they treat me, but the fact remains, I was the one that screwed up our relationship and I am the one that has to look at them under a different light in order to be civil. I have to do that because it is the right thing to do, they were born selfish and they will die selfish, I can't change that, even if for a short time I didn't see it, and really admired them. Again, most important, just mentally pretend this is the first time you met them, no past, just today, and work on that. It really does work and every one has a better time. __________________ Yes you can get off on the same sexual experience for 24 full hours!!!!!