UKking

What are your thoughts on this?

It's true that if a person's really into you, they'll be even more interested if you reciprocate. This is only true if you have a roughly equal level of attraction to each other.

Unfortunately, that's not always the case... Maybe a guy wants to secure the interest of a very popular, attractive girl(or the other way around). She's got a few other attractive guys interested in her, too. So in an attempt to make himself stand out or look more interesting, he does the aloof thing. By doing this he's attempting to be more mysterious and intriguing, and also appear more independent. Both of these things are solidly attractive. Assuming he isn't completely transparent, it might make a small difference in his first impression. Like it or not, we do make snap judgments based on first impressions.

If I have a friend who's really insecure, really wants a girlfriend, and is probably gonna do something awkward... Yeah I'd tell him to wait a bit before calling. Otherwise he'd probably creep her out with all his insecurity and neediness. Maybe he'd get time to compose himself. Or at least keep him from drunk dialing.

So sometimes this "rule" actually works in a persons favor... At first anyways. If the self-worth he attempts to exude isn't backed up by some kind of real quality of character, well, so much for that.

I wouldn't do it... There's more honest, genuine and constructive things I can do to help myself if I'm not feeling confident.
Despite this, I probably wouldn't call immediately... Ironically.
But that's because I'd rather have something fun arranged that I could invite her to before calling. I probably didn't have anything cool going on, and if I did, I'd have already invited her before I even tried to get her number!
It makes the whole conversation start a lot more naturally; I'm less nervous, I have something proactive in mind to talk about, a purpose, etc.

Let's say you're a fairly careful person, when it comes to boys....
You meet one who seems pretty into you, but you don't know much about him, and are feeling suspicious at first(maybe you've had a recent bad experience). He, however, is unabashedly interested in you. You know because he calls you pretty much right away, and again not long after. You know that he thinks about you quite a bit; he flat out told you so. He doesn't seem to hide anything.

But something gets you nervous. He seems basically okay, and you're not sure what it is, maybe it's nothing, but something is bugging you. Maybe you haven't gotten that much direct attention before, or something else entirely, who knows. Regardless, you're uncomfortable, so you tell him to back off a bit. He does so, possibly feeling dejected, and from then on, nothing happens. Things fizzle out entirely, and you never see him again.

In an alternate ending, you decide to give a little more benefit of the doubt despite reservations, and it turns out that he was just a little awkward at first, and is otherwise an incredible person.

My point is to try to look at the other side of the fence. The 'rule' exists mostly for overly eager, nervous guys to not scare away girls they're excited about. Friends of the guy see how he's likely to scare girls away, and thus advise him of this supposed 'rule.' I'm sure you girls have a few wacky 'rules' yourselves.

Personally, I don't know any guys who get kicks out of plotting ways they can maliciously deceive girls.