terrahurtz

I see. Yup, I agree with the points you guys make -- that you just gotta step over that hill, dont look back, go for it, and basically you gotta just try it out.


What's funny is yesterday i went to speak to a counselor and he told me that he felt that I was taking an all-or-nothing approach to life -- academics, relationships, friendships, life in general. He also said I was a perfectionist.

This relates to the thread because I posted the original quote because even though I know its a prudish, "dumb" stance, I had at points felt in agreement. For me, its mostly because none of the girls I meet who I actually can date (the ones that actually show an interest in me instead of simply blowing me off with excuses) are actually ever up to my standards taht I would want to try something more with them..

You guys say that you should just step forward and move ahead and give it a try -- but obviously this is assuming you feel ALOT of initial attraction towards the girl. For me, its always the girls who I don't have much attraction who are attracted to me. And moving ahead and giving it a try with these girls, I feel that its just a disaster to begin with. Why step out and try if you see the end in sight already? But here I have already warped you guys' points.. you refer to the ones you are highly attracted to, to begin with, right?

Or, is it part of my "all-or-nothing" approach to life that even makes me believe there's an "end" in sight, with the girls i dont find up to my standards? or am i just being pragmatic in a good way.. hmmm