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Originally Posted by terrahurtz
You guys mention that there are working solutions in the medium between the extremes. What kind of solutions would these be..? Seems to me that they would be ephemeral rather than long-term..
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Other solutions? Why, growing a set of balls would be a great start.
Seriously, getting dumped, dumping others and trying to figure out if you getting ready to get dumped are parts of modern life. They help us grow and reveal character.
As I see it, there are two basic ways to find yourself a mate - do it yourself or let someone else do it for you. If you chose the latter, then that means that your parents or relatives are going to marry you off to whomever they chose for whatever reasons they chose. Some of those marriages work, others not so much. And sorry, but my kids are responsible for their own happiness. I don't want that burden.
If you're going to do it yourself, which seems to be what your friend is advocating, you actually have to do it. If we followed his advice, friends would propose to each other, sometimes out of the blue. This board is riddled with threads about unrequited love. There's a very scary one out there involving a gun and a ring. Yes, people should be friends before getting married, but part of getting to know each other and becoming friends is called "dating" by those of us grounded in the real world. Honestly, I didn't want my friends around when my wife and I were dating. I just wanted her around and have her all to myself.
What your friend has proposed is a big ol' mess of unworkable mess. I don't see any way to ever translate it to reality.