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sunshine16 · 06-17-2008, 12:15 PM

We'll Heres some more of a detail for everyone.

So cut me some slack for being a newb at tfp. I met my boyfriend when i was 16 years old, the end of my junior year the beggining of summer, at a Fast food place i was working at the time. We spent the whole summer Hanging out in my hometown. Oddley i didnt care if he had a job or not it was "puppy love" basically. Now that i look at it i was the ONLY one who worked the whole time. I can remember the timeline of excuses he gave me throughout everything. This excuse was "I just want to spend more time with you" When I was working the whole time. Slowly He was cutting me off from my family and molding me and i didnt even realize it. Once The school year was starting I was bad,Sneaking out,stealing money from my parents to eat. I really hated myself. My sisters were at my moms house for the summer in a small deadend town 2 hours away and they had just gotten back to start school in my dads house where we lived.

One day i was having one of those rebellious fights with my dad and i was grounded and never to talk to him again. The next day My dad found me on the phone with him. And had sent me to my moms house to live, in hopes of me leaving my boyfriend. Once i had gotten to her house 2 days later he'd left his family and moved in with my mom. ( There is a long story about my mom and dad's divorce i wont get into but lets just say my mom is corrupted and will do anything to make her daughter's on her side to collect child support and welfare money) Even though i had lived in seward with my mom i never had agreed to anything she'd say or had done. Anyway wandering off topic. So i went to highschool part time and worked part time after school. My boyfriend doesnt have his diploma he had dropped out of school so he would just sit at home waiting for me. His excuse was "Im not used to your family and i dont feel comfortable. I would rather just sit home and wait for you." Yet again like a dumbass he made me think it was ok. Im a very shy girl and looking back i can see how easliy controlled i was and i hate it. So i graduated early in January and the school year ends in may. My mom lived in a dumpy house and could no longer afford rent there so she moved into a low income apartment and made some excuse of not letting my boyfriend move in. She had made a deal with me and him earlier in the year that once i graduate i could move out since i was 17 yrs old and my birthday wasnt untill october so i would have 5 months untill i could move out AFTER the school year was over. She was surprised i had worked extra hard on graduating early and the Bitch said i couldnt move out untill i walked with my class. So i worked 2 jobs so i wouldnt have to be home with her. While my boyfriend sat in anchorage at his parents house. another excuse "I cant work when your not here. I miss you too much" And like a dumbass i put up with it because i wanted out of that hell hole and i had no one else to go to. So Graduation day comes along and i was out of that town within 30 min. Note: This whole time ive never had contact with my dad's side of the family and even spoke to my sisters

I saw them once at graduation.

I moved in with his family and baby sat all summer for money because his parents needed babysitters so his ass slept while i took care of 3 newborns. his excuse for not helping " was im to tired and i promise ill help next time" after a while it came to You go. After a Month or 2 of baby sitting i worked at another fast food place because i couldnt get a good job yet because i was still 17 with a diploma and most business' want 18 year olds. So i applied for a temp agency and got hired at my current job for temp work 3 days after my 18th birthday. I love this job!! So once i had that job i moved out with my boyfriends sister since i wasnt fully hired with that company i was getting paid from the agency about 300.00 a week. My boyfriend didnt pay for shit. or work still. My rent was 500.00/mo Plus Groceries and gas. And His sister was a gambler so constantly borrowing money ,because my boyfriend can never say no. So after getting hired i worked my ass off,still do, and he never had a job the whole time still. We had gotten into a huge argument with his sister and they just ended up springing it on us and moving out leaving 900.00 rent for us on my income. Luckily i had gotten hired by the company i wanted and barley started making enough for it.

So after months and months with a jobless boyfriend still wouldnt even look for a job even though he lied and said he applied everywhere online and we had looked he didnt get hired or anything. (i was even to the point where i was getting applications for him and applying online) Still nothing. Months and months of No money/food sucked ass. For Three months in a row i would get home from work and go straight to bed. he would be on Call of Duty 4 Every day 24/7. Oh and for the whole 3 years i havent been driving. He wouldnt let me. wouldnt teach me. Actually yelled at me that i was retarded because i couldnt jump in the drivers seat and work miracles. Till recently i've been driving. maybe a month now. So im really fed up with all of this.

For those 3 months he was playing call of duty I've started to talk to my family. I've completely cut off my moms side because I never got along with them in the first place. but ive started to repair the bond with my sisters and my dad. He would get furious. Force me to do things in order to talk to them. Im really ashamed. My sister is my best friend. she knows everything. I just really want out so im done giving this chances i feel like he doesnt deserve it. Right now hes letting me have friends and talk to my family because hes walking on eggshells and he knows it. So thats why im despratly needing advice and help.

Hope that was enough of a back ground

06-17-2008, 12:15 PM	#5 (permalink)
sunshine16 Registered User Location: top of the world	We'll Heres some more of a detail for everyone. So cut me some slack for being a newb at tfp. I met my boyfriend when i was 16 years old, the end of my junior year the beggining of summer, at a Fast food place i was working at the time. We spent the whole summer Hanging out in my hometown. Oddley i didnt care if he had a job or not it was "puppy love" basically. Now that i look at it i was the ONLY one who worked the whole time. I can remember the timeline of excuses he gave me throughout everything. This excuse was "I just want to spend more time with you" When I was working the whole time. Slowly He was cutting me off from my family and molding me and i didnt even realize it. Once The school year was starting I was bad,Sneaking out,stealing money from my parents to eat. I really hated myself. My sisters were at my moms house for the summer in a small deadend town 2 hours away and they had just gotten back to start school in my dads house where we lived. One day i was having one of those rebellious fights with my dad and i was grounded and never to talk to him again. The next day My dad found me on the phone with him. And had sent me to my moms house to live, in hopes of me leaving my boyfriend. Once i had gotten to her house 2 days later he'd left his family and moved in with my mom. ( There is a long story about my mom and dad's divorce i wont get into but lets just say my mom is corrupted and will do anything to make her daughter's on her side to collect child support and welfare money) Even though i had lived in seward with my mom i never had agreed to anything she'd say or had done. Anyway wandering off topic. So i went to highschool part time and worked part time after school. My boyfriend doesnt have his diploma he had dropped out of school so he would just sit at home waiting for me. His excuse was "Im not used to your family and i dont feel comfortable. I would rather just sit home and wait for you." Yet again like a dumbass he made me think it was ok. Im a very shy girl and looking back i can see how easliy controlled i was and i hate it. So i graduated early in January and the school year ends in may. My mom lived in a dumpy house and could no longer afford rent there so she moved into a low income apartment and made some excuse of not letting my boyfriend move in. She had made a deal with me and him earlier in the year that once i graduate i could move out since i was 17 yrs old and my birthday wasnt untill october so i would have 5 months untill i could move out AFTER the school year was over. She was surprised i had worked extra hard on graduating early and the Bitch said i couldnt move out untill i walked with my class. So i worked 2 jobs so i wouldnt have to be home with her. While my boyfriend sat in anchorage at his parents house. another excuse "I cant work when your not here. I miss you too much" And like a dumbass i put up with it because i wanted out of that hell hole and i had no one else to go to. So Graduation day comes along and i was out of that town within 30 min. Note: This whole time ive never had contact with my dad's side of the family and even spoke to my sisters I saw them once at graduation. I moved in with his family and baby sat all summer for money because his parents needed babysitters so his ass slept while i took care of 3 newborns. his excuse for not helping " was im to tired and i promise ill help next time" after a while it came to You go. After a Month or 2 of baby sitting i worked at another fast food place because i couldnt get a good job yet because i was still 17 with a diploma and most business' want 18 year olds. So i applied for a temp agency and got hired at my current job for temp work 3 days after my 18th birthday. I love this job!! So once i had that job i moved out with my boyfriends sister since i wasnt fully hired with that company i was getting paid from the agency about 300.00 a week. My boyfriend didnt pay for shit. or work still. My rent was 500.00/mo Plus Groceries and gas. And His sister was a gambler so constantly borrowing money ,because my boyfriend can never say no. So after getting hired i worked my ass off,still do, and he never had a job the whole time still. We had gotten into a huge argument with his sister and they just ended up springing it on us and moving out leaving 900.00 rent for us on my income. Luckily i had gotten hired by the company i wanted and barley started making enough for it. So after months and months with a jobless boyfriend still wouldnt even look for a job even though he lied and said he applied everywhere online and we had looked he didnt get hired or anything. (i was even to the point where i was getting applications for him and applying online) Still nothing. Months and months of No money/food sucked ass. For Three months in a row i would get home from work and go straight to bed. he would be on Call of Duty 4 Every day 24/7. Oh and for the whole 3 years i havent been driving. He wouldnt let me. wouldnt teach me. Actually yelled at me that i was retarded because i couldnt jump in the drivers seat and work miracles. Till recently i've been driving. maybe a month now. So im really fed up with all of this. For those 3 months he was playing call of duty I've started to talk to my family. I've completely cut off my moms side because I never got along with them in the first place. but ive started to repair the bond with my sisters and my dad. He would get furious. Force me to do things in order to talk to them. Im really ashamed. My sister is my best friend. she knows everything. I just really want out so im done giving this chances i feel like he doesnt deserve it. Right now hes letting me have friends and talk to my family because hes walking on eggshells and he knows it. So thats why im despratly needing advice and help. Hope that was enough of a back ground Last edited by sunshine16; 06-17-2008 at 12:34 PM..