this thread may be useful...
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=135468
I will say it again...it's not a black and white situation. It's a tense time, of course. But if you were feeling low and rejected in life, what's the last thing you'd want? Someone breathing down your neck I'd bet. Just be gentle and she will come around. She may be a little depressed. She probably agrees with you...just isn't willing to comply right now. So be patient and keep doing what you do...If she used to be the main breadwinner, she has it in her. Sometimes people need time. In the meantime, be flexible. Be nice. If she feels like you're not holding a grudge she will come around sooner than you think.
I also realize that the majority of people here will probably disagree with me and tell you she needs a kick in the butt...oh well. At the end of the day it's about what you are able to tolerate.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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