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I think the problem with long distance relationships, particularly when you're young, is expectations. Even if you have spent real time together. The time spent together during most LDR's is usually fleeting, and exciting, and in out-of-the-ordinary circumstances, not in your natural environment I mean. So an illusion is created of how wonderful it could be when you do get together on a daily, routine type basis and have to deal with issues.
Once the LD part is over, and you decide to be together in the same place, often the illusion doesn't match the reality and there are all sorts of things you find out about each other that you didn't count on. Now, you either can deal with that and it doesn't make you love the other less, or it ruins the relationship and there you are, having spent several years on something that crumbles at the first sign of reality.
I'm not saying all LDR's work out that way. Some people have great patience, great tolerance, and a lot of love to give. They are also good at LD sex, like a previous poster said heh. I say power to those of you who stuck it out and made it. I'm just saying it takes two...and on the same wave-length.
Having tried LDR before, I try not to put myself there again...I'd rather spare myself the heartache. It's too much time spent pining about someone who you only see a few times a year. I'd rather live things here and now, when possible.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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