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a) you should read a few of our other threads on men and porn...it has been spoken of to exhaustion and it might help you understand the desire he has to do that better. Use the search function.
b) The fact that he masturbates to pictures of you I'd find flattering...most guys will look at other women...I guess for the variety.
c) it is strange that he won't have sex with you. Is there a problem he's not telling you? Is he afraid of intimacy otherwise? Maybe he's just got a different sex drive to yours - this is a very common issue for most couples at one time or another. The best thing to do, is tell him you're unhappy. He should at least try to resolve things, otherwise he probably sees it as your problem and frankly in that case it's hard to work with someone unwilling.
d) I'd say that masturbating more makes me want sex more, not less. But I think the men of TFP can help you better with that topic...
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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