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finney · 05-30-2008, 07:43 PM

Looking for opinions from men and women alike.

My BF does this and honestly it kind of bothers me, only because we don't have as much sex as I'd like. He always seems to be busy with something - and to his defense he does have a lot of responsibilities - so our sex life isn't first priority.

I'd like sex a couple of times a week (usually...sometimes more, sometimes less of course). He doesn't. I understand being too tired or just not wanting to have to worry about pleasing someone else so you turn to masturbation instead, lord knows I do it too, sometimes I just want to get off without having to go through all the other song and dance.

But an issue in our relationship has always been porn. It used to be worse and it has improved so I'm grateful for that. I don't hate porn but it used to be a staple of our sex life of lack of. There used to always have to be porn going, porn was foreplay, you name it. It was like there couldn't be any sexual activity between us without it involving porn. That has improved a lot like I said but admittedly it's still something I'm sensitive about.

So I guess that's why I get upset. He thinks I should be flattered that he gets off to my pictures instead of porn and I do see his point and I think under any other circumstances I'd feel the same way but to me, now, it just seems like another way to get out of having sex. I mean, why not just be WITH me?

And another thing is he's an older guy (46) so he doesn't get turned on any time the wind blows. He can always get an erection - never had any problems in that area - but I think because he masturbates so much, it takes him half of forever to have an orgasm most times. A lot of ladies wouldn't compain about that, especially if they're not getting a lot of sex, but saving it up for 2 weeks to have a 3 hour session that I'm bored and sore halfway through isn't exactly my idea of fun.

Anyway...am I just being insecure about the picture thing? Should I be flattered? Do other guys do this and how do you see it...is it a "tribute" to your woman...or is it just jerking off? Just looking for some feedback

05-30-2008, 07:43 PM	#1 (permalink)
finney Upright	Men masturbating to pictures of their women Looking for opinions from men and women alike. My BF does this and honestly it kind of bothers me, only because we don't have as much sex as I'd like. He always seems to be busy with something - and to his defense he does have a lot of responsibilities - so our sex life isn't first priority. I'd like sex a couple of times a week (usually...sometimes more, sometimes less of course). He doesn't. I understand being too tired or just not wanting to have to worry about pleasing someone else so you turn to masturbation instead, lord knows I do it too, sometimes I just want to get off without having to go through all the other song and dance. But an issue in our relationship has always been porn. It used to be worse and it has improved so I'm grateful for that. I don't hate porn but it used to be a staple of our sex life of lack of. There used to always have to be porn going, porn was foreplay, you name it. It was like there couldn't be any sexual activity between us without it involving porn. That has improved a lot like I said but admittedly it's still something I'm sensitive about. So I guess that's why I get upset. He thinks I should be flattered that he gets off to my pictures instead of porn and I do see his point and I think under any other circumstances I'd feel the same way but to me, now, it just seems like another way to get out of having sex. I mean, why not just be WITH me? And another thing is he's an older guy (46) so he doesn't get turned on any time the wind blows. He can always get an erection - never had any problems in that area - but I think because he masturbates so much, it takes him half of forever to have an orgasm most times. A lot of ladies wouldn't compain about that, especially if they're not getting a lot of sex, but saving it up for 2 weeks to have a 3 hour session that I'm bored and sore halfway through isn't exactly my idea of fun. Anyway...am I just being insecure about the picture thing? Should I be flattered? Do other guys do this and how do you see it...is it a "tribute" to your woman...or is it just jerking off? Just looking for some feedback