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Originally Posted by Derwood
11 years in and it's the best it's ever been, but we had some fights early in our marriage that would have sent many people to their divorce lawyers. we were young (22 and 20 respectively when we wed) and had almost no money. it's amazing what financial stress can do to your relationship as a whole. we've only in the last few years finally hit a level of financial comfort, and poof, all those day to day arguments or quibbles magically disappeared.
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Funny. I tend these days to forget the early years. But your post reminded me.
In a way, being poor earlier has good memories. We used to go out after Thanksgiving dinner and cut down an old cedar tree for a Christmas tree. Now Thanksgiving isn't even over before my wife and her sisters are ready for Black Friday and it is totally against what Christmas means what my wife spends these days on a tree that we often barely find time to put up before Christmas.
We had two old cars and the one we drove at the time was whichever cost less to repair. Now we have three vehicles and my wife's agency furnishes a fourth.
We even had our favorite varieties of Hamburger Helper and payday Fridays we could buy canned Chinese food to fix at home. Now we buy groceries that spoil in the fridge and we eat out entirely too much.
But those early years were hell too. Finances can be a terrible strain on a relationship. We both tend to agree that our families were not what could be considered very supportive. Had they came to one of us and said "you really need to leave him/her" we may have never made it. But as all we had was each other. We stuck it out, raised a good family and are as happy as anyone could ever hope for.