amire

This is a direct takeoff of the other thread,"How happy is your marriage?" but I didn't want to threadjack. Mods: if you think that this question should be asked in that thread, just let me know.

A lot of couples posting there say that they are INCREDIBLY happy in their current relationships, but were miserable in previous ones. So my question is simple: what was the fundamental cause of the failure of those original marriages? You were obviously very happy at the start of the marriage, but something must have changed in the years between coupling and divorce. Is there any way that those of us who are still single can avoid this fate?

Unfortunately, I can't inject my own experiences here because I've never been married. I am, however, a young bachelor who's looking to settle down in about 6 years or so, and I'm constantly looking for advice. I guess that I can say that my previous relationship failed because I took too passive a role and tried to constantly please her rather than worry about my happiness, as well.

Thanks!