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I have to disagree to a point. A physical handicap is different than a mental one, and we have not determined that the woman in question is "handicapped" in the first place. As far as healthy relationships go, it is often far more difficult to deal with some issues once you add the change of mind and expectations of marriage. Marriage is listed as one of the most stressful events a person can go thru, and it is a poor time to tackle obvious personality issues. I did not recommend "withholding" marriage, or praise, or affection as a tool to leverage behavior out of the other person, I just feel that adding the stress and complication of marriage at the same time so much insecurity is self evident is not a good course of action. There is a natural level of insecurity that is evident in anyone. I think it is healthy. probably keeps us from acting like alec baldwin,(egomaniac!). There is a huge difference between being a functioning well adjusted individual, and having issues in your life that keep you from relating to people in a healthy fashion. This girl is not healthy. All parties involved would be better served dealing with the issue before the issue is complicated by marriage.
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