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Actually, high-jink, I own chasing amy and have thought of it too. In this case, it's not all just sex-related issues. Not the first time I've confronted my own judgment issues, though there are aspects in this relationship that are new and therefore maybe more challenging, which is natural I think. ...some things might have been "deal breakers" had we not already talked so much and I had found out how amazing she is...so I'm trying to see the person, not the issues.

I have no doubt about her having grown out of past phases -- she's damn incredible in her world-view, maturity, and self-growth. In some sense, that's another reason why I am frustrated with my own shortcoming as described in the OP...her and our relationship makes me want to get over my own weaknesses, and I really only hope that I can so that I can enjoy everything for what it is.

Actually, high-jinx, I own Chasing Amy and have thought about it numerous times. Not everything in this case is sex-related, but it doesn't change the fact that I'm confronting my own judgment issues again because I hadn't made similar decisions. Her and I have talked and I told her how some of the things might have been "deal breakers" had we not been talking for a while, or had I not gotten to know her or see how amazing she is...and that's the truth: I want to see the person, not the issues.

I have absolutely no doubt that she's grown out of any past phases. I'm constantly impressed by her world-view, maturity, and self-growth. I find it really attractive. Which is why the subject of my OP frustrates me a lot, too -- it is evident of my own weakness/failure to grow up in this area. I want to get over for her sake and the sake of our relationship, and I just hope I can. I really just want to enjoy what we have.