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Originally Posted by engineering83
.. the way my mind works (or has worked in the past), it ruminates excessively about these now-inconsequential things, or even just differences between us, therefore causing me stress and anxiety.
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Great self-realization.
What'cha gonna do with that knowledge?
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Basically, I just want to stop thinking about some of the things we talked about. It's not productive, they don't reflect who she is as a person, and it just causes anxiety.
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I know you feel that it's easier said than done (I've been with a man who's very much like you this way), but since you
get this about yourself,
you have to find your own way to let it go. Personally, I think therapy's the way to go, if possible, because often times self-talk doesn't give you the feedback you may need to push yourself beyond this.
Other than that, communicate with her about how you feel, no holds barred.