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Basically, I just want to stop thinking about some of the things we talked about. It's not productive, they don't reflect who she is as a person, and it just causes anxiety. We just have different past experiences and growings-up. Nor do I have a desire to change her; this is a problem with me and it makes me feel insecure and weak letting anything bother me at all. The distance I'm sure doesn't help, and some days are better than others, but I really just want to relax and enjoy the relationship.
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Print this section out, and carry it around with you. When you start to ruminate unnecessarily, pull it out and read it out loud. Not to yourself, but actually speak the words. It won't take long before it sinks in. You've already arrived at the correct 'solution' in the course of your post, now you just need to drive it home.