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We are an open minded, progressive couple, that have been together for 9 years. She had NEVER really given any thought all her life to being with women at all, (despite opportunities) until 2 years ago, after years of my fantasizing this, she opened up to the idea a year before our wedding (with no pressure from me) and said she thought she wanted to try women, and asked if she would have my support. We have GREAT communication and trust all around, we are best friends and we are really tight with a GREAT relationship. So naturally not only did I think this was HOT, but also I totally trust her to play with chicks and not leave me for one. Well, we spent a year TALKING about her "experimenting," even went to pre-marital counseling and talked it out there, also laid some boundaries down for both of us. We agreed on these:

1. We would be comfortable with her to first experiment one on one with women to find out if and/or how bi she may be (without me interfering)
2. Once she figured out whether she was attracted to women, if she was, she would eventually be into doing a threesome with limited contact with me via the 3rd. (I am fine with just watching/having sex with her, while she plays with 3rd)
3. We were also ok with her having a semi regular gfriend, as long as I get to meet this woman and know she is treating my wife well, etc. but that if this gf was not available or interested in threesomes, we would be on the look out for a proper candidate outside any steady, one on one gf of hers

We both agreed to these boundaries and talked about them at length, LOTS. Well, we got happily hitched and shortly after the wedding, with my blessings, she starting meeting some ladies one on one. She always keeps me in the loop about what happened with who and when, and I TOTALLY trust her because she is always honest. At first it was just kissing, or a make out, and a date here and there, and then she met let's call HER "S." S and her started up a friendship at first that was flirty but seemingly platonic, (because S also has a male fiance, who is ok with her being bi as well). S ended up being my wifes first same sex lover and they have since continued to develop a close friendship and with all the benefits. I think S is great, met her and her man and she makes my wife happy, even though they only get together about once a month. She is NOT a threesome candidate for us because S has a man, so my wife and S are one on one gf's per se, well now they have been seeing each other for about 6 months and out of nowhere I am having feelings of severe jealousy. I was truly ok with all this in the beginning, but now it is harder and harder for me to share my beautiful and kind wife with someone else. My wife assures me that she will never leave me for S nor any woman, and I totally believe her, I am not afraid of that, I am just plain old jealous! Maybe it is because I haven't gotten in on any action yet and since I can't with S maybe I am just impatient about us finding the right person for the threesome, but then again even if I had the threesome, I may still be jealous of when my wife and S hang out! I see how my wife enjoys this friendship and S is great for her. I want to be supportive, and I am, and I want to CONQUER this jealousy, not give in to it. I am a very spiritual guy (not religious mind you) and I would REALLY like to tackle that part of my ego. I don't want to make my wife unchoose her bisexuality now that she has been enjoying it with my support, I want to learn how to deal with my stuff. I know most people would say she is selfish etc. but really, we all have the capacity to love beyond the boundaries we are believed to keep love in. My wife is happier and heightened with her new state of experimenting, and let me tell you, her experiments have done wonders for OUR sex life too! And also, despite her and S's relationship, never does she treat me with any less love or sex, in fact she has MORE to give. From a professional psychological stand point, does anyone have a solution on how to tackle this basic stupid jealousy?? I would sooo appreciate it! (I'm not looking for people to tell me I should leave my wife, ain't gonna happen, we love each other too much!!) THANK YOU!!!