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Originally Posted by willravel
Well, within reason sure. Regardless if one owns a house they still must follow certain rules called laws. If you beat your children you cannot explain to the police, "My house, my rules!" I mean you can, but it's not going to help in court.
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Since this thread predisposes the reader is 18+, let's keep it within that realm.
The parent no longer has ANY OBLIGATION to house or feed their children after age 18. Do you disagree?
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Originally Posted by willravel
A big part of growing up is something called individuation. It's a time for young people to discover who they are. Part of that is formulating different opinions than your parents. It should be welcomed, but monitored, not attacked. Only a bad parent would ask their child to leave because they have differing opinions.
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No where did I suggest that a parent ask their child to leave. Again, since the reader is 18+, where does ANY law state that a parent must house and feed an offsping past 18? A parent is doing such thing out of their own goodwill and good nature.
But again, Sure it's time for young people to discover who they are and have different opinions then their parents. You're free to have different opinions, just be ready and willing to back up your opinion with the ability to say, "I'm sorry but I disagree and can no longer live under this roof and these rules."
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Originally Posted by willravel
If your parents promise something, get it in writing otherwise they might try to weasel out of it because they still ahven't learned how to respect you as an adult yet. Adults sue when there is a breach of contract.
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So you're advising that someone sue their parents? Talk about adding gasoline to the fire. You seriously belive that will help keep an 18+ adult on a good relationship and terms? You really think that the parent will not just say, "You know what, I've made the desicion for you, please leave."
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Originally Posted by willravel
Wrong. If your parents are breaking the law you owe it to them to call the police because they're raising you to be a responsible adult.
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So you call the police, again, who's going to pay for the mortgage, rent, car payments? Talk about cutting off your nose to spite your face. Seriously, you're talking about potentially jail, fines, or other repercussions. Do you again really believe that it will foster goodwill and better the realtionship and terms with their parents? Again, tyou really think that the parent will not just say, "You know what, I've made the desicion for you, please leave."
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Originally Posted by willravel
...but you're not responsible for how you were raised. If your parents fucked up on something, it's okay to admit that was their error and not your own.
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this is the only point I can agree with, I never said that it wasn't their parents fault, I stated that the individual is still responsible for their own situation and their own future. Their past, is past, and dwelling on it doesn't improve their current or future situation.
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