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Old 04-15-2008, 07:53 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Relationship advice...

Hi, hope I've posted this in the correct forum.

I've been with my gf for well, it's 2 years this weekend actually.
Our main point of difference seems to be, that old time favorite subject of everyone's, sex.

Obviously if we've been together this long, it is seroius. But I'd rather walk away from it now if it's not going to work in the long run, then let it drag on and we just end up unhappy - Although ideally, everything works out beautifully and there's rainbows and lots of 's.

Anyways, to the point. She likes to often say how things won't be in the future as they are now (sexually) - as if to say it's unusually often.
(If you want to decide on wether it is unusually often, well I'd say it's no where near! hah - We don't live together, and she's an hour away from me. We probably see each other during the week 2-3 times (I drive an hour+ from my work to her work then to her place, then another hour driving back home on those nights), + she'll normally stay over at mine on weekend. The sex happens on average half the time. Personally I don't wanna hear it's gonna be worse later let alone continue like now? lol...

We're also going overseas for 2 months in a few months time, and plan is first 3 weeks of that will be with one of her family, then after that we go travelling. She says for those 3 weeks, not to expect it, because the place is very small, and that they sleep walk and other people will be there, bla bla. Comes across to me as an excuse machine. I think it's one thing it's innappropiate at a particular time/whatever, another to pretty much tell me not to expect it in advance.

I suppose I'm really wondering, am I being selfish in having a problem with this, or is she just coming up for excuses and trying to block things rather than let them just be however it ends up being... ? etc

My 23 year old mind is confused. (She's about to turn 23 too FYI, if that makes any difference).
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