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creepysusie · 04-06-2008, 12:26 PM

"I still to this day have no idea why my ex did such a thing like that."

Really?
You dumped someone you were with in a long term relationship and expect to be living in the same place with said person?
Ending a relationship requires tact, patience, intelligence and responsibility. This isn't the movie "The Break-up", where things just unravel nicely in a cinematic format. You made the decision to break up with someone, you should have figured what you needed to do. You knew his name was on the lease and didn't make any plans on moving out. Maybe it was a smarter idea to find the apartment and then break up.

A relationship takes 2 people to end and if you felt you are wronged, I'm sure he feels the same way. That's just human nature. I understand you are upset about your parents and all that shit, because it genuinely sucks, I've been there. But it seems like your approach was pretty harsh.

Even you said he tried to work things out after agreeing on the living arrangements, but you said no. I mean, if you had lied and said "i don't know, maybe. We will talk about it later" at least that is going to buy you some time at the apartment.

5 days before Christmas.... Really? Serious?
It's a good thing that it was holiday season and he could still return the gift he probably got you. Talk about sending the D-Bomb.

It's a good thing that you have someone pay for hotel because in real life, that doesn't happen. No one is going to be your safety net. If you can't learn to be self reliant, how can you even expect to be with someone else?

We all know you can't expect to rely on your closest friends and family all the time, but what would have possessed you to think that you could rely on your ex-boyfriend to let you live in HIS apartment after YOU dump him?

If you are still bitter, then blame your bitterness on your own bad timing.

By the way, I'm not taking sides.
He's stupid for not seeing problems in the relationship and blindly thinking that everything was fine.
You are stupid for your bad timing.
I'm equally critical.

04-06-2008, 12:26 PM	#23 (permalink)
creepysusie Tilted	"I still to this day have no idea why my ex did such a thing like that." Really? You dumped someone you were with in a long term relationship and expect to be living in the same place with said person? Ending a relationship requires tact, patience, intelligence and responsibility. This isn't the movie "The Break-up", where things just unravel nicely in a cinematic format. You made the decision to break up with someone, you should have figured what you needed to do. You knew his name was on the lease and didn't make any plans on moving out. Maybe it was a smarter idea to find the apartment and then break up. A relationship takes 2 people to end and if you felt you are wronged, I'm sure he feels the same way. That's just human nature. I understand you are upset about your parents and all that shit, because it genuinely sucks, I've been there. But it seems like your approach was pretty harsh. Even you said he tried to work things out after agreeing on the living arrangements, but you said no. I mean, if you had lied and said "i don't know, maybe. We will talk about it later" at least that is going to buy you some time at the apartment. 5 days before Christmas.... Really? Serious? It's a good thing that it was holiday season and he could still return the gift he probably got you. Talk about sending the D-Bomb. It's a good thing that you have someone pay for hotel because in real life, that doesn't happen. No one is going to be your safety net. If you can't learn to be self reliant, how can you even expect to be with someone else? We all know you can't expect to rely on your closest friends and family all the time, but what would have possessed you to think that you could rely on your ex-boyfriend to let you live in HIS apartment after YOU dump him? If you are still bitter, then blame your bitterness on your own bad timing. By the way, I'm not taking sides. He's stupid for not seeing problems in the relationship and blindly thinking that everything was fine. You are stupid for your bad timing. I'm equally critical. Last edited by creepysusie; 04-06-2008 at 12:29 PM..