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Originally Posted by pornclerk
How is ending a relationship classified as treating someone like shit? Would it have been better to stay in a dead-end relationship?
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So you gave him some idea of what was coming?
"I'm not happy, and I think if X Y and Z doesn't change this relationship needs to end"
"I have serious problem X with our relationship, lets go to counseling and try to resolve it"
"If there isn't a concrete plan to progress this relationship to marriage, this relationship needs to end"
etc etc.
That is what I would view as "treating like shit." If you are going to 'drop the bomb' and end a relationship abruptly, it needs to be for reasons the other person has no control over (ie, something that they can't change). If you're going to dump someone, and then blame them for the breakup, without giving them a chance to fix the fixable things, I'd say that's a little shitty.
To quote the other interested party:
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I wish she would sit down with me and try to work it out for something more positive in our relationship instead of cutting and running.
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In any case, once you dump someone, anything shitty that they do to you pales in comparison. I'd say kicking you out when you dumped him was on the mild end of things I have heard of at the end of 8 year relationships.
Being bitter towards your ex is sour grapes: Don't ever forget who ended the relationship. You can be bitter that he didn't meet your expectations, but it is your actions that caused you to not be (probably) engaged by now.