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I think everyone is being far too judgmental, things like this are never clear-cut.
Both sides are pushing the blame around, while admitting to some faults of their own.
I think it's quite sad to see things end like this, but it happens a lot. This couple's problem is simple: lack of communication, and too much assuming things before outright asking each other. Happens ALL the time.
My most recent ex dumped me (as in we didn't break-up, it was pretty one-sided also), but we still lived together for a month after that. Was it hard? It was excruciating, heart-wrenching, and I shouldn't have done it. You live and learn.
My advice about being bitter? Stop thinking about the whole situation and live your life. It may never go away, but it will fade and lose importance. And that's probably the best you'll make of it.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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