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i agree that marriage is outdated. really, the only reason i see to do it is to make it more difficult to split up a family you're starting. it's kind of like an extra "check yourself" point before you split up and possibly traumatize your kid.
if it helps you psychologically, i suppose that's fine... but i'm a big advocate of knowing one's self and by extension of that, self control and responsibility, and i hate how much the govt and our society makes people's behavior other people's responsibility.
having a kid is a big responsibility... it's a 20 year project that there's really no backing out of with massive time and financial commitments. overall it's better to have a partnership to deal with that, i'd say up to the point where staying together is actually becoming more harmful than splitting up would be.
in the end, you should be able to look into your own heart and tell whether you're going to love someone the rest of your life, and you don't need a piece of paper from a judge or priest to do that... but if you want to throw a big party about it and drop about a car's worth of income on it... have at it whenever you'd like.
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