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Ex's Engagement
I got an invitation to an ex's wedding today and it really threw me through a loop. I've had several of my exs get married before and even gone to a few of the weddings. In fact, I'm starting to feel like Dave Cook from 'Good Luck Chuck' (and trust me, it pains me to compare myself to that no-talent ass-clown) since this girl was the last of my serious girlfriends to not get married.
This particular ex, however, is the one I was with the longest (almost 4 years) and probably was the most serious about. I don't really know if that's what's bothering me about it though. Since we parted ways, we've still kept in occasional (though declining) contact and I've become more and more distraught about the choices she has made with her life and generally who she has become as a person. That isn't to say she isn't an extremely good person in a traditional manner, but it's a very different person from the one I knew and loved for a very long time.
And I think that's what my real problem here is. All my other ex's who got married were essentially the same people they were when I was with them. If I didn't like that person anymore then they were gone. If I did then after a time we could be friends based on many of the qualities we liked about each other. I guess this whole thing is forcing me to actually deal with the fact that I really miss who she was and that relationship and all that after I'd thought I had that out of my system quite some time ago.
I guess this just kind of has gotten me down and I'm trying to make sense of it. Typing things out helps me get my thoughts in order and, I figure, typing it here might open me to people who have had shared experiences. So... comments? Thoughts? Stories of your own?
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