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I can see Ustwo's bitter disillusioning position, but I agree with xerpherys's position. If she's going to cheat on you, then she's going to cheat on you. At some point, you have to decide to trust her...or else don't. I tend to ask whether it's worth my time...and that leads to asking myself what behaviors she exhibits that make me jealous. Jealousy is just an emotion, like any other. So, if I'm calling her and she's not picking up...and she's spending a lot of her time with said friend...and she's not affectionate with me and seems otherwise to be distracted in my presence for reasons unknown...then you may have a problem. The cheating would be a symptom, and the greater problem would be that your relationship was shit. If you don't get an STD or a baby out of it, count yourself lucky and move on. Either way, life is short and you have to decide how to spend your time. Worrying about whether your girlfriend is fucking some guy living in her basement is a horrible way to pass an afternoon...and I'd be inclined to ask myself why I wanted to be with someone I thought was fucking a guy in her basement?
As for the hugging male friends...I wouldn't worry about that. You'll drive her into fucking one of them if you give her shit about that. Regardless, communicating in these situations, without blaming whomever you're with, is the best way to go. You grow as a person, and the relationship either grows or dies. What will be, will be...etc.
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