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Originally Posted by ChassisWelder
I think you nailed it right there. A good friend of mine began dating a girl 4 years ago (college freshmen), and in that first year, he received countless "Dude, I want to fuck your girlfriend, she's smokin'" comments. From there forward, it was almost like time lapse photography. She stopped caring about her physical appearance, went from healthy and fit to a fat slob. When another drunk friend called her out on it, her exact reply was "I don't have to look good anymore, I've got Dave."
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I've actually become better-looking since getting with my SO. He doesn't care one way or the other (doesn't like make-up or girls who dress up too much, and likes me the way that I am, whatever way that is), which gives me plenty of reason to be lazy about it, but the fact is that other people judge you based on your appearance. Before we got together, he was very active, and after dating for a year and a half, I thought it was high time that we get back to that. So I started doing yoga on a regular basis, eating well, and riding my bicycle. It motivated him to start getting active again, and between the two of us, we've lost 80 pounds.
The sex drive definitely declined when we were both chubby. It perked up a bit with the weight loss. More often than not, what interferes with sex is time. We go to bed too late and too tired to get into it. We deliberately try to go to bed a little earlier on certain nights, and we've mastered the art of the before-bed quickie even when we are tired.
We're not four years into our relationship but I really don't see myself not wanting sex 1.5 years from now. I like sex. It's fun.