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surferlove007 · 03-05-2008, 06:58 PM

My Sister and I are two and a half years apart in age. She lives in Atlanta, GA and goes to Georgia Tech while I live in College Station, TX. We see each other probably once a year at best. She's 22 and I'll be 20 in April.
Here comes the reason why I started a new thread.
She and I have never seen eye to eye on most things. We can only tolerate one another for a few days at a time. Since we moved apart our relationship has become more estranged but better in a sense. I'm the instigator when it comes to contact. I call, she doesn't answer 9 out of 10 times.
She lives alone with a town home my parents bought for her (yes they bought her a house) with three cats. Her boyfriend is a college drop-out who works at Target who's trying to get certifications to get better jobs. He is 24 and living at home with his parents.

Flip the situation.

I'm 20, dating Jstrider who's done extremely well for himself and we're very happy.
She has resentment towards me because of this. I don't know what to do, I'm stressed out because I want her to be with someone who can support her and take care of her if and when she'll need it. I know thats cliche but that's how I feel. A marriage isn't just love, it's a business agreement according to my mom...my mom also says she might feel as though I'm competing with her constantly in life and that resentful is a form of her feeling she is losing.

Have you guys had siblings that just express no interest in your life whatsoever or even resentment because things are great for you but not so wonderful on their end? I'm frustrated. I've expressed this to her and she said to keep my nose out of her business and leave it at that, she'll call when she calls.
My dad said there have been times where she doesn't call his siblings for years and to just let her do what she likes. If she doesn't want to be my sister then so be it according to him, can't force her.
Maybe I'm being just too emotional about the whole thing, but I want my sister to love me as much as I do her and it hurts me deeply to feel as though she hates me and wants nothing to do with me...

**sigh**

03-05-2008, 06:58 PM	#1 (permalink)
surferlove007 Junkie	Sibling Issues My Sister and I are two and a half years apart in age. She lives in Atlanta, GA and goes to Georgia Tech while I live in College Station, TX. We see each other probably once a year at best. She's 22 and I'll be 20 in April. Here comes the reason why I started a new thread. She and I have never seen eye to eye on most things. We can only tolerate one another for a few days at a time. Since we moved apart our relationship has become more estranged but better in a sense. I'm the instigator when it comes to contact. I call, she doesn't answer 9 out of 10 times. She lives alone with a town home my parents bought for her (yes they bought her a house) with three cats. Her boyfriend is a college drop-out who works at Target who's trying to get certifications to get better jobs. He is 24 and living at home with his parents. Flip the situation. I'm 20, dating Jstrider who's done extremely well for himself and we're very happy. She has resentment towards me because of this. I don't know what to do, I'm stressed out because I want her to be with someone who can support her and take care of her if and when she'll need it. I know thats cliche but that's how I feel. A marriage isn't just love, it's a business agreement according to my mom...my mom also says she might feel as though I'm competing with her constantly in life and that resentful is a form of her feeling she is losing. Have you guys had siblings that just express no interest in your life whatsoever or even resentment because things are great for you but not so wonderful on their end? I'm frustrated. I've expressed this to her and she said to keep my nose out of her business and leave it at that, she'll call when she calls. My dad said there have been times where she doesn't call his siblings for years and to just let her do what she likes. If she doesn't want to be my sister then so be it according to him, can't force her. Maybe I'm being just too emotional about the whole thing, but I want my sister to love me as much as I do her and it hurts me deeply to feel as though she hates me and wants nothing to do with me... sigh