thespian86

My natural instinct everytime is to sit her down and have the discussion. I'm not afraid of her, and I realize I endorse how she acts through my own timid actions. This isn't a case of me not standing up to her out of fear of her but rather what it would do to my GF. She and her mother are unnaturally close (I say that as a product of my home, not as a general statement) and she will never sever ties with her. I don't want to put her in a situation where she is caught in between. I'd like to think that it is simple for her but it's not and I am totally understanding of her tricky situation. But now it's gotten to the point where I don't know how I won't be able to sever ties with her.

I have tried to have the talk but she (the mother) often spirals to a point of grade school hair pulling and crying and throwing fits. I've never raised my voice, I've never said anything insulting to her; I'm trying to be the bigger person but it doesn't seem to work either. But I also have priciples and I refuse to lower myself to her level, as well as be abused by a women who has no right to do so. Right now it's been about two weeks since we last spoke. The GF has talked to The Mom every day in those two weeks. The Mother came over to house with her husband (whom I get along with very well) and I said "Hey Guys" pleasently and her dad replied with a friendly "Hello" and she stood there without even looking to me; all I could think of is my five year old sister saying "Is that the wind, because I don't see anyone".

I can see strain in my GF as if she wants to change it but doesn't know how. My solution for the past few months has been giving her advice on how to fix it because I don't think I can fix my problem before she does without harming the situation. I'm trying to be diplomatic I suppose. Realistically though I know I'm dreaming; there is no diplomacy with this woman, and no way to win an arguement or even discuss something because if she loses control of the situation she runs... literally, slamming doors behind her.

I don't really give a fuck about how she talks to me because in the end she means nothing to me except how she treats my future wife. I'm worried right now because my GF is looking into furthering her education and hoping to expand her job opportunities. I've told her that I think she should go where it fits her best, where she can get the most out of it. I would miss her, and we would be apart but I want her to be happy and I want her to be prepared for life. Her mother is all but forcing her to stay in town, go to a crappy community college where she would do nothing and she knows it. That's why I'm worried.

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