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Originally Posted by medlar
This is easy enough for me having been burned quite severally in a past relationship but I'm still feeling I want to be with someone again, so I'm being cautious and knowing..You'll never find 100% anyway.
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Getting to that 100% is you, not them. I get the feeling that compatibility is often 90% perfect and the only way to achieve that 100% is to let go of the fears you have of the last 10% and say, "Hey, we're gonna do this thing." Positive attitude with separate personal and shared goals are huge. Actions over words works for me, too.
In my limited experience, optimism and the traits that follow, my friend, are what make or break relationships. Confidence, assertiveness, integrity, and big brass balls. You have to go into a new relationship with arms wide open and your chin up... knowing that you'll accept either a big warm hug or a brutal right hook from the other person.
No false advertising. You have to be you. Don't be anybody else, chief. Hell, I don't know how people can sustain that game for more than twenty minutes, anyway.